Ok, so I got this in my inbox today from the Boundless webzine.
“Our roundtable this week revolves around Candice Watters’s Boundless article, “When to Settle.” During the discussion, Steve makes the observation that too often Christian singles seem willing to settle on biblical criteria when choosing a mate while not giving an inch on cultural ideals like … a man’s height. Is your ideal prohibiting you from moving forward in a relationship?”
Ha ha. I liked that line. The article they’re referencing actually goes on to say:
…Thankfully we have a standard that’s completely reliable.
- A man must be a believer.
- He must be able and willing to provide for his family.
- He must love sacrificially.
- He must be honest, have a good reputation and strive for the qualities of a spiritual leader. (See Acts 6:3, 1 Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:6-9)
If you’re measuring a man against that list, considering his aptitude for growing into full maturity in those areas, then marrying him is praiseworthy. Even if he is shorter than you. Or younger. Or bald. Failing to meet our worldly expectations — our romantic shopping list — is no liability if he meets biblical ones. That’s the only list that matters.
(Evil laugh) Mu hah hah ha.
So, the good news: young women are called to evaluate guys on things other than their (relative) height. And the bad news: that’s a pretty demanding list, and one that I have been failing at especially in recent weeks.
I’ll leave you all with a couple of insightful quotes:
But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” (ESV)
Or as my friend Ricky says,
“I’m not interested in girls. They should be interested in me.”